Being an alpha male is about two things,
1. Showing guys that you’re not threatened by them.
2. Showing girls that you’re the real deal and not just another imitator to try to impress girls.
So, to help you achieve alpha status, we listed out the top 10 body language tricks of the modern alpha male. So that you can make sure that your effort to become more alpha backfires against you. And we’re giving you the number one way guys accidentally appear weak when trying to be more dominant.
10. Set The Pace
There are many differences between alphas and non-alphas. But the first one most people notice is the walk. When guys are nervous, their walk changes into a quick, short-stepping, frantic kind of walk most of the time.
It is the kind of walk that tells people “see you later”, but not because they’ve got anywhere to be. But contrast that with the walk of the calm and unhurried alpha male. He walks like the world runs on his schedule and like he is in control of the time itself.
So, now you may think about, alright, so, all I’ve got to do is just make sure to walk slowly and keep people waiting. Wait, the idea isn’t just to move slow no matter what. But, it’s to walk in a way that naturally gets people to change their speed and match yours. So, now you can see the difference.
9. Take The Throne
You may have seen this before, a guy is sitting down, hunched over his shoulders, shrugged to his ears, his chest sunken in, and he’s possibly looking like there’s something interesting happening on his phone. It might be a familiar sight for most of you.
The truth is, most guys probably sit like this most of the time. And don’t even know it. But it is too bad. Because it is the kind of posture that’s way more likely to get girls asking if everything is okay.
When it comes to an alpha male, he sits leaning back comfortably, relaxed, while having the potential for conversation with anybody who wants to talk with him. He is mellow, he’s considerate of others, but also he never fails to send the signals that show others he is in his seat and he owns it.
So if you want to get in the alpha zone, you should try getting comfortable with this classic position. Assume you got the space, cross your right ankle over your left knee, lean back, rest your arm up behind you and watch the whole landscape change.
8. Open Your Chest
Standing the right way is one of the main things about being an alpha. If you look closely, dominant, unafraid guys all have a tendency to stand a certain way. And that posture allows them to create a real, natural, commanding presence wherever they go.
It is not threatening. It is not defensive and it is not supposed to be aggressive. It is mostly just open. There are a lot of ways to create a natural down for whatever stance, but there is one super useful trick to really make it count as you are talking to people or even just you are walking, put your hands behind your bank.
Without getting too scientific about it. We can say that a person’s chest is one of the most vulnerable parts of the human body. So by placing your hands behind your back and grabbing your wrist with your hand, you leave yourself open to anything. And subconsciously you are showing everyone that you’re not registering any threats.
7. Level The First Impression
A firm handshake speaks volumes on who you are as a man, even when it comes to women but, a lot of guys don’t get that there’s a lot more to a proper handshake than just squeezing the heck out of the other person’s hand.
You don’t want a lazy hat noodle handshake. And also you don’t want to overcompensate by shaking too hard, because as with any other physical contact, the true way to show confidence is really by showing control.
Here’s how to properly shake hands. While looking the other guy or girl in the eye, extend your hand out and let them come to you. Then grab their hand firmly, but be careful not to squeeze too hard. Then shake the hand no more than three times, up and down. While shaking hands don’t forget to smile. And also be sure to say something nice.
6. Display control
A big part of alpha male body language is how alphas physically engage with other people. More specifically how they physically engage with girls. If you did this right, it touches the ultimate demonstration of the 3 C’s of a true alpha male. That is confidence, chemistry, and comfort.
If you did these things wrong, you could be straight sent to the jail block or even worse the beta block. The reason a lot of guys don’t touch girls is that they don’t want to risk creeping out the girl that they like.
But when you think about it. The problem is and the reason why touching works so well for alphas is precise because there is risk involved. Even though it is just a touch there is a lot to get wrong which a lot of guys do.
When a girl sees a guy who is perceptive enough to know how to and how not to touch her, she also sees a guy with a good sense of how to deal with risk and how to handle her trust.
So, now you may be wondering how you can safely incorporate touch like an alpha. Here are two ways to get you started.
1. If you talked to her before, go for a quick hug if you run into her again. Show her you’re friendly.
2. After that simply follow her lead and mirror her touch if she touches you.
5. Style Amplification
A big part of being alpha is how your style stands out from the crowd. It should be your style, not your friend’s style. Not a celebrity’s style, but your own style.
This is an important thing like your body language. Your style does a huge amount of talking for you. And also, girls do pay attention to how they dress.
So it is important to know what’s in style. But knowing the style is only half the battle. What matters is what you do with that information. Because where most guys learn about style in order to fit in, but alphas use their style to stand out.
As with everything for alphas, style is all about being smart. Stay too far from the norm, and you might be too hard to relate to even to be considered an alpha.
But, on the other hand, if you always stay with the pack you’ll never get seen.
4. Message Consistency
Being able to speak without saying anything is at the core of what it means to be an alpha. In fact, it might be this skill alone that makes girls respond to some guys so much more than others.
If you don’t know yet, non-verbal communication is a huge turn-on for any girl. It is the basis for everything when it comes to flirting. And without it, you’ll be out from the battle no matter how awesome you are.
Chemistry, comfort, and even showing off your sense of humor, all begin without you ever saying a word.
But the key to mastering non-verbal communication with a girl is simple. All you gotta do is match what you are expressing through your face, with what you are actually thinking.
But it is not that easy. There are plenty of reasons why the expression on a guy’s face might not reflect what he’s thinking. And the number one reason for that is because he is trying to appear confident when actually he is less confident.
But when it comes to an alpha male, they are naturally confident. So it is easy for them to act accordingly.
3. The No Bluff Buff
What is better? Looking strong or being strong? It might depend on person to person. But actually being strong is the one thing that brings you closer to become an alpha.
So being strong is to have a body that truly has some power to it. Other than a body that only looks like it. It is the presence of real physical power, instead of just the appearance of it. It makes any guy seem like the badass dude in the room.
So, what should you focus on if you want real power?. Any exercise that works your explosive power and ability to move heavy weights is guaranteed to make you look and feel alpha to guys and girls.
2. The challenge
Eye contact is one of the most important things when it comes to being an alpha male. There is a thing called the fight or flight response. Your might probably heard of it. But you might not know how heavily this instinct plays into every single interaction you have, including eye contact.
Alpha males are better when it comes to not fleeing from the first sign of eye contact from a girl. It is the exact instinct to hold their gaze for a second and acknowledge eye contact from a girl, that gives them a leg up.
1. The Proof
Alpha can’t be an alpha without being a leader. But the dynamics are actually way more complicated than that.
While plenty of guys know that they should try to take on a leadership role, alphas are automatically perceived to be the leader by the group. It is almost like gravity.
It is just a natural role for them. They couldn’t be the leader even if they tried. That’s why they are called alpha males. And it is natural for people around them to have no problem yielding him to that leadership.
So. what if a non-alpha wants to be the leader around an alpha?
The only thing you can do is to fake it until you make it. Instead of being in the background, you have to come to the foreground of any situation, such as a classroom, your office, an event, or whatever situation.
By putting yourself out there, you make yourself known, and it quickly changes the mind of those around you and eventually transforms you into the alpha yourself.
Now here is the number one thing guys do to show that they might actually be a beta male.
There is a difference between expressing some dissatisfaction and living in negativity. Alphas always try to roll with the punches. But a beta male tends to blame the world for these problems.
A beta always complains about how bad his life is and always makes excuses for why he has it rough.
When it comes to an alpha, he has a natural aversion to saltiness, and instead of defensively trashing other guys, he speaks as highly of others, as he may think highly of himself.
So what do you think about these body language tricks of an alpha? Leave a comment down in the comment section.